Facts About Suicide and Grief


It is very difficult for most of us to imagine the pain of a suicidal person. When one is poised on the brink of suicide, there is a strong sense of ambivalence. Often times, it isn't really that they want to die, rather life's problems have stacked up so high that they just don't see any other way out.

At this point, tunnel-vision can set in and even though there are other ways out and many people who would gladly offer help, the suicidal individual can't see beyond his or her own pain. This tunnel-vision may also prevent the person from understanding the impact their death will have on family and friends.

One very common reaction to suicide is a sense of guilt felt by those left behind to grieve. Suicide is a very private, individual act and the motives for suicide are extremely complex. Friends and family may think the person "has it all," but the suicidal person doesn't see it that way and can't live up to those expectations.

Generally speaking, suicidal individuals are suffering from intense emotional and psychological pain. Their self-esteem is very low and there is a marked sense of sadness. Being suicidal is itself not a mental illness and it is not genetically inherited. It is a devastating symptom of many complex problems and it can happen to anybody, anywhere, at anytime.

Watch for marked changes in the personality, eating habits, sleeping patterns, appearance or sociability of those left grieving after a suicide. Signs of suicidal feelings are present in 80% of suicides.

If you are concerned, ask the person directly, "Has it ever been so bad that you have thought of killing yourself?" Listen non-judgmentally and direct the person to counselling or other resources.


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